Hi! I'm Richard, 40 years old, lived through and enjoyed both monogamous and open relationships. Engaged to a wonderful women who I met through work three years ago. Lust on first sight; love developed quickly and strongly. We live in two different European cities that are a 90-minute flight apart. We see each other every other week or so for three or four days. Hopefully our jobs will allow us to move to the same place sometime soon.
My experience in previous relationships has taught me that I am most interested in having a "half-open" relationship. I don't want to limit the freedom of the woman I love, but I want to be monogamous myself. Besides, it turns me on to know that the woman I love and who loves me is chased by others. However, it's absolutely key for me to know I'm her "number one". I found out in a previous relationship that sometimes I need quite a bit of reassurance. Her lusting for others wouldn't upset me, her falling in love with others definitely would.
We communicate well, and she knows my feelings and preferences. She is glad I'm honest about them, and agrees that it's better to be open than to do things behind the other person's back. Yet she says she wants to be monogamous with me, and that's perfectly fine with me. But she also knows she'll never have to feel guilty if and when something were to happen with someone else, as long as she doesn't lie about it.
That's the intro. Now I'll post a dilemma in another part of the forum...