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Old 06-23-2011, 08:03 PM
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Originally Posted by serialmonogamist View Post
Right, but if you make yourself attractive for yourself, why would it surprise you if other people find you attractive too?
I am always surprised when people find me attractive, just 'cause I'm not that conceited to believe that everyone would. LOL. Sure, certain people, in certain situations, I know will be attracted to me, but I'm usually more in tune with if I feel good and attractive for ME.

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Why would a woman who puts effort into making herself attractive for whatever reason blame her partner for finding other women attractive who use similar techniques for appearing attractive? Attractive = attraction, no?
Well, that's a blanket generalization if there ever was one! Personally, I never "blamed" my partners for anything if they checked out other chicks. In fact, my husband loved the fact that I would point out pretty women for him to look at. And I'm totally straight. Never been the type to be jealous of a roving eye. I like to look at hot guys, why shouldn't my partners be able to look, too? Just because you've had already dinner, doesn't mean you can't still look at the menu.

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