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Old 06-23-2011, 04:53 PM
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Originally Posted by serialmonogamist View Post
Is the only way to be totally monogamous to completely emotionally distance yourself from everyone you interact with except your one partner?
Based on how I work: (and I can only speak for myself)
If you are merely acting mono due to conditioning, or your current situation, then keeping a distance would be a strategy to prevent new intimate connections that conflict with an existing one. If however, you are truly internally mono, there is no need to distance yourself from anyone. You only have that one type of intimate connection with a single person. All other relationships involve a different type of connection. The only time these other connections can cause a problem is if you have an insecure partner who views platonic friendships as a threat.

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