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Old 06-22-2011, 10:28 PM
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Originally Posted by Snowdancer View Post
It wasn't until I was on Adult FriendFinder for over a year and started doing some research on Open Relationships, that I began to realize that I am naturally Polyamorous. All the evidence was always there; yet somehow, I never managed to put it all together before.

Through all of my adult life I've pretty much believed that I should have the right to pursue intimate relationships with whomever I wanted, and have always wanted the freedom to do so. But I've also felt my partners should have that same right too (or anyone and everyone else for that matter.)

The idea of having casual sex with friends has always made a lot of sense to me too, even though it didn't seem to make sense to many others. I've felt sexually attracted to plenty of my friends. It just makes sense to express those feelings with those you care about.
While I am happy for you that you are glad about making a discovery about yourself, I have to mention that your post seems very focused on sex, or rather casual sex. You do know that that is not what polyamory is about? I just felt it important to reiterate here that polyamory is about love. I would think that most anyone you would find looking for hook-ups on Adult FriendFinder is not really hoping for polyamorous relationships - that site is just about sex. Although sex is a part of most relationships, many poly relationships do not include casual sex or even, for some, any sex at all. If poly relationships also have an open element to it, where the partners can and do seek casual liaisons, it seems that most peeps involved in something like that will acknowledge that is not the poly part. If you're focusing on the sex and having lots of casual sex, that's one thing; if you're focusing on LOVING more than one person, that's polyamory.
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An excellent blog post on hierarchy in polyamory:
solopoly.net/2014/10/31/why-im-not-a-secondary-partner-the-short-version/

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