Honey-hating yourself won't fix anything. When trust is broken in anyway it has to be rebuilt. Some people "heal" easier than others, sounds like she is one who does-and he is one who doesn't.
Tell him you are sincerely apologetic.
Assure him you have learned from your mistake.
Prove it-but doing it.
THEN it's really time to talk about those fears you mentioned in your post with both of them so that you can work through them.
"Love As Thou Wilt"