As this reads more like a personal, it's now on the appropriate board.
Also, as there is no poly lifestyle, you might want to make clear what "lifestyle" it is that you reference. Are you swingers? These aren't swinger boards, though we do have some polyfolk here who also swing.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.