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Old 10-12-2009, 11:20 PM
locks locks is offline
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Default Informing myself

I am 25, male, and I have always been a monogamous person and never really considered anything else, but..

Recently I expressed my feelings towards a woman who I have known for a while and fallen for, and to my delight she responded with the same feelings, we talked and did the normal thing. During this she defined herself as polyamorous and asked if I had any problem with that... I told her the truth, which is that I honestly don't know how I would react to her seeing someone else, as like I said I have always been monogamous.

I don't want to hurt her, or get hurt myself... but I feel as though by committing I would be setting her or myself up for some unwanted feelings down the road. I like to think I am a very open and accepting person, but this has me conflicted.

I am not sure how the relationship would be structured, what her expectations of me would be, what mine would be of her.. I am just confused.

It will be a short time before I can see her, so I have decided to take the time to inform myself of what to expect and gather some knowledge so I can communicate with her effectively on the topic.

I guess what I am trying to ask myself is, can a relationship where one person is polyamorous and the other monogamous work?

Could anyone possibly shed some light on the topic?
Experiences, thoughts, or otherwise?

Last edited by locks; 10-12-2009 at 11:23 PM.
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