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Old 10-12-2009, 06:08 PM
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My best suggestion for both of you is READ READ READ READ READ. There are LOTS of posts about this.

Ceoli recently had a thread about being third and how painful and hard that can be and Mono has TONS of writing about how well he's been cared for, loved and treated "as a third".
Check those two posters threads first then search.
HONESTY
COMMUNICATION
COMPASSION
CONSIDERATION
are key ingredients. If you want to add someone you have to be willing to prioritize THEIR needs/feelings/desires, not just your own.

Good luck!
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