Lots of us have been "the victim" of abuse in various forms. It irks me to see erstwhile "abusees" counseling present "abusees" with "Oh you poor thing. I know how hard it is to get out. When you're being abused, it's soooooo haaaaard to leave. I feel for you honey. I've been in your situation and I finally got out, but it's not as eeeeeeeezeeeee as everyone saysssssss."
Been there, done that. Would never recommend it to anyone.
OP, I am NOBODY. I am a stranger on an internet message board. If you let someone like ME get to you, you have a LONG ROAD ahead of you and it's gonna get worse before it gets better. But it will never get better if you do not get your head out of the sphincter hole.
That is all there is to it.