Originally Posted by sage
The best thing piece of advice I have heard over poly relationships of any kind was given by Neon Kaos recently (sorry don't ask me where). She said (paraphrasing)"Treat others as you would like to be treated and don't let others treat you any differently"
I think it should probably be ammended as "treat others as they would like to be treated, and make sure they give you the same respect" or something like that, to account for the fact that the way you would like to be treated can be miles from the way they would. And if you treat them the way you'd want to be treated, and they treat you the way they'd want to be treated, you might still make each other miserable.