Originally Posted by violet
I would say again, read through the Poly FAQ I linked before. There are some AMAZING articles that tell you how to handle your feelings step-by-step. And they say it far better than I ever could. I can honestly say that that FAQ did more for my mindset in a week than MONTHS of "open communication" with my partners and soul searching ever could have done.
US TOO!!! Very helpful and insightful. One of the great things we found were words to express what we were thinking/feeling/needing/wanting where we lacked them previously. Also it helped us figure out where to start in trying to talk about some of the technicalities of what was going on. Sometimes one of us knew we needed to talk, but how to start the topic we couldn't figure out!