My 23-year old (who is very cool with it) accidentally told my 28-year old (she kinda thought she knew, but she really didn't). The 28-year old was very mad, and called and told my mom. And my sister.
My mom's main concern is that this is hurting my husband. She thinks I am out of my mind to think he is really ok with this.
She is right, in many ways -- he does struggle. But he loves me enough to let me love 2. I love him immensely for it! So my mom is learning, along with us.
Since the initial shock factor, things have mellowed out quite a bit. No one really talks much about it. I'm relieved. It's really no one's business except my husband and me (and my boyfriend