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Old 06-18-2011, 08:52 PM
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Originally Posted by serialmonogamist View Post
. . . I don't think many people feel jealousy of platonic love that goes on between their partner and others in monogamous relationships.
Oh, no, that's not true. One can be jealous of anyone their partner spends time with, enjoys being around, has inside jokes with, co-workers, whatever - doesn't matter if it's totally platonic. I felt jealous about some of my ex's friends. The dynamic doesn't always control that. Jealousy usually rears its head when insecurities or self-doubts are present (and there's always more stuff underneath it).
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