Originally Posted by NewToRaleigh
Much of our "poly" life has been about being open to sex, but relationships have been more complicated.
Then you are open as well as poly. You can do both of those at the same time (my wife and I are poly AND have an open relationship).
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.