If momentary silence and aprehension lead to clearing up her other stuff so you can purely enjoy what you three could have than it is definitely worth it.
If it leads to different paths for her and you guys then take all the lessons you have learned and make future relationships better than ever!!
Being positive is about realizing every dark cloud does in fact have a silver lining...somtimes we just have to really look for it.
Hope it works out for all of you.
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