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Old 06-16-2011, 09:30 PM
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Originally Posted by Minxxa View Post
Basically it comes back down to me really needing to explore what I want, go after my passions, live my life for myself WITH my partner instead of living my life FOR my partner. I was that person once. I tried to remember her, and somewhere in the having kids, getting married process she got buried and now I got to go dig her up! (Why am I getting a zombified 20 year old me picture in my head??)

My husband asked if I was having a midlife crisis, and maybe yes? The person I made myself into isn't the person I want to be (not all of her anyway, she's got some good points I'm holding onto!). Now it's time to do some real work.
Our stories are different but I can so-o-ooooo relate to this, especially the parts I bolded.
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