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Old 06-16-2011, 07:37 PM
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I had the feeling of being replaced and no longer necessary in his life. This was not true of course and now I can see where we both have very different things to offer. I am no longer under the preassure to participate in things I really don't enjoy doing and at the same time I know there is someone there to look after him in my absence.

We are not in a place where sex with others is even an issue yet, I'm sure that will bring to the forefront a whole new set of issues for both of us.
Curious - do you feel you are closer to that? Is that even what your husband's friend would want? Maybe she's happy with things the way they are and doesn't want it to go further, but do you think you will ever embrace having additional relationships?
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