I have no problem with a non-sexual relationship and would actually encourage this due to the fact that people offer different things to different people. THe source of most of my anguish is over the fact that they wish to have the same type of relationship that my wife has with me including physical. Her words not mine. Why do I have such an issue with this? Why does this bother me more than the emotional relationship? Maybe I do put to much on the physical, maybe I lack in the emotional and that was what she was looking for and now they feel it needs to go to the next level because that is only the natural course of things.