"the mono relationship structures tend to be about ownership". How? I would say committed partnership....similar to those in business.
I know you're married so you must have called pn "your" husband at one time or another does this describe ownership?
I never felt owned by my wife.....I was devoted to her.... I chose to to focus my time and energy .....life to/with her. Maybe you should run those statements by your parents and see how they react.....might give you some prospective....or the basis for the statements.
That's just me ...D