Thank you all for your advice and opinions. I was very tired when I wrote that and I know I left out a lot that might clarify things. I also phrazed things a bit weird that made sense to my sleep deprived mind but probably not much to anyone who read it without the other facts. Mostly I think I was just airing some fears about bringing a baby into this world, and how and who would be raising it. I was really wondering if anyone had had any good or bad experiences with being poly and having children. Thank you
XYZ123 for sharing your story.
Also eventhough we are trying, I might not ever be able to conceive and that is a whole other issue that I don't feel strong enough to face right now.