Originally Posted by Fidelia
Coming across negatively is exactly what you did, Violet.
I get it that you feel very strongly about this, especially given HMA's history, but Redsirenn came here for help, and is trying to be honest and open about some very sensitive issues she's trying to work through. I think deserves she respect and compassion for being brave enough, and strong enough to put it out there in the first place. Attacking her isn't likely to be productive or helpful.
Perhaps redsirenn isn't the only girl here who needs to check herself.
I didn't think she came across as "attacking". Negative, maybe, but in a good way. It's a good thing to not sugar-coat this kind of advice. If I had advice to offer, I'd probably do it in a similar fashion, especially if I'd had first-hand experience and was trying to help someone else not make the same mistakes that I made.