Redsirenn, there's one thing I've been wondering actually and might help shed some light on where you might want to head from here. I went searching back to see if I was missing the answer, but I can't find the answer to one very important question.
Why did you want to explore opening up your relationship with him in the first place?
(oh yeah, and I highly recommend ANY of Franklin's writings on relationships on his xeromag site for poly people or mono people. He's a good friend of mine