Thank you all for your support and insight, I have started to readt the book "The Secret of Letting GO" to see if this will help me to release my fears and become more comfortable with this. I love my wife more than anyone I have ever loved. I want her to get everything out of this life she can. I know that this will be difficult and especially not easy for me but I need to do this for her, and hopefully I will be reciprcated for my efforts. I know I cannot count on this and should not be thinking of myself but I need to be aware as do they of my needs as well. My needs and wants should be met as well right? I pray that this does not blow up in our faces ( wrong way to think I know). She still has not made the final decision but I am sure she will decide to do this.