For the record, her reaction was certainly augmented by her knowledge of my history - but that had very little to do with it, or rather the part of my history that she was involved with where these issues come into play is an example of her reasoning, not the cause of it. Cler as mud, I'm sure.
Sum it up - there are certain destructive behaviors in relationships that Violet feels very strongly about, and in Red's posts she exhibited just about every one of them. I've been outside talking to her about it. I kinda regret telling her to read this thread, lol.