Originally Posted by opalescent
You do not need to be best buds with the friend. It's not required. In fact, you do not need to like said friend.
I think this may be part of the problem. If I read it correctly, he was Bangel's friend first. I imagine it might feel like the wife stole the friend and the friend stole the wife, so two losses at once. Logically, we know that's not really how it is, but gut reaction and emotions are not always ruled by logic and fact.
Sorry, I don't have any advice to offer.