Originally Posted by Sikau
How can I choose between my husband and myself?
Okay, so this one line struck me more than anything else. It's a no-brainer to me. You should be choosing yourself most of the time. I don't mean what TV show you watch at night, or silly things like that. If you consitently put others before you in matters that affect your very core, you will drain yourself. If you do not put yourself first, you will ultimately become useless to your husband.
His need to be monogamous is no more legitimate than your need to NOT be monogamous. That is an important thing to remember.