Of course, you're devastated!
Real relationship with GG? But it's real now, how is this going to make it suddenly real? What is the logic here? He has a gf, can't he abide by you having GG as well as Maca in your life? Maca's staying married to you doesn't mean the relationship with GG isn't real. And having GG in your life doesn't mean your marriage to Maca is less than or not "real."
I'm just blurting out what comes to mind. I know you know these things. Where is he? Can I go shake him? :/
Sorry to hear this is happening, but at least he wants to talk - maybe you can convey to him somehow that this is not what you want and there can be a way to stay together. It seems like you are both doing so well living apart, you can still be married and have such an arrangement.
I'm so sorry LR; I hope that you find a way to move forward.
Sorry to hear this Pretty Lady...I had so hoped to see you, GG and Maca come for a visit. I tried e-mailing Maca a while ago to see how he was doing but I don't think he checks this sight anymore...I'm still here if he needs anything just as I am for you and GG.
-------Hugs LR! --------
Live in the feeling, experience it until you can accept it, then forward movement will follow. That's the plan.
That and READ POLYNERDISTS BLOG FREQUENTLY. Because, he inspires me.