Really I think you just keep working, process and wait. It sounds like something is forming out of your experiences thus far for both of you. Maybe you and he should go and work out some stuff together in therapy? This might help if its a matter of issues rather than differences of being.
I have a Mono boyfriend, it can be a constant battle to understand one another. We have taken breaks now and then to reassess where we are at and see if we are still good for one another, so far we are.
We live one day at a time and one experience at a time. Someone offered that wisdom to us and although it drives me crazy sometimes because I want to get going to an answer, I always come back to the same thing; one day at a time and life is about the journey not the end result.
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