Yeah, I think Jan is the one who will have a hard time now. But in a way, some distance may be good for him. I always have the impression that I'm preventing him from finding someone else who can give him what he wants. I would love to keep him with me, but also, I want him to be happy, and I'm not sure if being with me is the way for that... Time will tell.
Actually, none of the relationships in this network is really steady yet, it's the first poly relationship for everyone of us and it's all new. We'll all do our best