Of course mono people get attracted to others. There are so many attractive people out there! (And so many cheaters...) You're trying to be mono now, but with an open policy on openly looking and flirting. Whether you 2 can use those outside attractions to just fuel your fire for each other, or change your minds somewhere down the road and decide to open the relationship, you'll figure it out! It's between the 2 of you.
I'd be sketched out by that woman you say seems to want your partner to cheat on you with her... but if you trust your bf, and you 2 keep lines of communication open, again, you'll figure it out. It's a new relationship, it can take a good year to even get out of NRE and into some kind of understanding of these kinds of things (as well as finances, housework, families, and all that stuff).
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
The single biggest problem with communication is the illusion that it has taken place. --Shaw
me: Mags, female, pansexual, poly, 59, loving and living with
miss pixi, female, pansexual, poly, 37