Originally Posted by sparklypleasures
This is sort of a secret lifestyle anyway isn't it but with the hubby being in the dark that makes it worse.
The husband being in the dark has nothing to do with poly at all and is not even an aspect of poly relationships.
While it is difficult to be open about a poly lifestyle, it is hardly secretive unless the environment you live in requires that to maintain a healthy interaction with friends, family and community.
Hopefully this woman makes a safe exit from her mairrage but if her husband is as much a bastard as you describe she may want to be very cautious in how you inform him.