Originally Posted by redpepper
Sorry, but likely your therapist is full of shit and you need a new one that knows a bit more about diverse relationship dynamics
What she said! speaking as someone who had to go through the whole sorting out of sexual orientation: if you love and desire your bf at all in a sexual way, then the simple fact that he is MALE means you are not lesbian.
There are several sexual orientations that include attraction to both genders. Including but not limited too bi- and pan- sexuality. But try not to get too caught up in the symantics of the thing.
If you have a loving relationship, it doesn't need a lable.
Now, what does kind of concern me here is that it sounds like either your BF didn't know you were going on this other date or that he isn't really okay with it even if he did know. (Or that you are not really okay with the idea of going on a date with someone other than him, regardless of if he knew or not.)
That right there indicates that maybe you and he need to sit down and have some serious discussion about what is and is not going to exsist in your relationship.
Figuring out sexual orientation is hard enough withou adding relationship misunderstandings to the mix.
I totally applaud your seeking out your sexuality. But make sure that you are ready to do it and that you and your BF can both live with the choices that will be made.
Just my two cents.