I read the whole series as well and LOVED it. I am having a drawing done presently for a tattoo up my back (I have no tattoos at this point). Someday when it's all done I'll post a pic on here.
I have never identified with anyone as well as I identified with phedre.
I hear what you are saying about this WHOLE thing being new-not just the topic but also the primary relationship between you and the boyfriend. That does have a significant impact on what steps to take and when.
I can certainly see taking time to really think through your steps! If you do go to one of the meetings-I'd LOVE to hear about it. We don't have ANY where I live (alaska).
I'm very curious and interested in going to a few, but I would have to fly to Washington to get to the closest one to where we are.
I look forward to getting to know you better on here. I hope you stick around as a poster!