Originally Posted by Fidelia
But perhaps he really didn't know at the outset how he would feel, and is now simply being open and honest about feeling the relationship has no future. And heartbreaking as it is, because he's decided your V is doomed, it is. I'm so sorry.
Great point Fidelia!
Who really does at first? I certainly didn't know what my relationship was going to evolve into or how our vision of the future would change our requirements and boundaries.
As goals change within a relationship so does the evaluation of whether it is possible in a mutually healthy way and if it is worth it in relationship to the bigger picture.
This may be what has happened in this case...there is no fault there..just different paths with different requirements to be healthy.