Originally Posted by Gecko
But what if you are poly and meet someone who is mono married. Do your personal beliefs about relationships lessen your perceived impact on pursuing your way into their lives?
I'd walk away from that like it was a hot potatoe. I hate to say "never" because there's forever a "except" someone can come up with. But, as a rule of thumb, I wouldn't consider a mono person in a relationship as someone to even pay attention to with romantic thoughts, much less pursue. It's hard enough for a mono whose already in love with someone whose poly from the outset, but to screw up a relationship to date someone whose mono? That just strikes me as creating unnecessary drama...