Originally Posted by River
. But if you stop and think about it, you'd not like to be his secondary, would you? Would you?
I'm going to respond to this because it is a valid question and the answer is unhesitatingly YES.
Yes I want a relationship where I was his/her secondary. I'm married. I have kids. I have a full time job, a hobby that keeps me busy and I'm continually educating myself in my chosen field.
Yes, I want to be someone's secondary. I want to be that part time love/lover who we talk to via text/msgr/phone 4-6 days a week, and get together one, maybe 2 days a week.
Ideally my love/lover would be someone who has all of the above already. Someone who is looking for a part time/long-ish distance/secondary relationship.
So yes, I would be happy in a secondary role for someone else.
On another note - thank you for the thoughts. Hubby is fairly stable and his being unavailable to me helped me to "let go" of my need to manage his medication... although we BOTH have the reminders going off at the prescribed times