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Old 06-06-2011, 04:01 PM
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Lightbulb Ethics in Poly/Mono dating.


There seems to be a fair amount of previously mono people here that are/were married and fell for someone outside their marriage.

My question is for the people who fell for the mono married people....especially if you were single, or already an experienced poly.

The causes and flaws of monogamy seem to be used often when people describe how they ended up in a poly relationship and I can see how a married person would identify with these things when falling for an outsider.
But what if you are poly and meet someone who is mono married. Do your personal beliefs about relationships lessen your perceived impact on pursuing your way into their lives?

I know everyone tries to be honest and communicate, but by doing that it must be a fine line between letting them know about poly and your love for them and not coercing them with displays of love and philosophies of it all working out in a poly eat mono world?

If two people made vows to each other, thats there business and if you respect them you should leave them to it right, or not?

No judgement, just trying to open up some discussion on also feel free to take the thread wherever its needs to go.

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