Wow honey! This is unbeivable. He should consider himself lucky that all you did was cry. (I would have beat him up-side the head)
Reading this kind of post makes me angry for two reasons. First, his whole attitude about sex seems very misogynistic. Why does he automatically assume that two women who love him are ready to a) love each other or b) do anything to please him, up to and including having a three way they didn't agree to.
The other reason is that it really sounds like this man has a very poor understanding of poly. Poly is about love. And How can he possibly expect you to fall head over heels in love with his OSO in less than 24 hrs?
With all my heart I will love and not fail,
With all my soul I will fly and not fall.