I guess what I do not understand is what makes this so wonderful? What does everyone get out of this? What is the benefits? For someone like me who is mono it just seems like cheating with permission. I am in no way knocking this I am just trying to understand. I have asked them numerous times but they both seem to be getting iratated with me saying that they are just repeating themselves. They say there would be more love for everyone but from my perspective it seems that I would lose the time and affection from my wife now that I am sharing her with someone else. I am by no means saying that this is not a possability I am just trying to understand how this all works. I would imagine it works differently with everyone and sometime may not work at all. Thank you for your insight and appreciate any more that you might have seeing as you have been in a similar situation.