Originally Posted by MonoVCPHG
I totally get the living for the day thing and in fact did that to get through a phase in my own relationship. Unfortunately I also found it froze the depth of our connection. We both wanted more from the future and growth. Living completely in the moment halted that for us.
What I have learned to do is accept possibilities but continue to move forward so I give the best of myself to our relationship. I refuse to let "what ifs" degrade my enjoyment of belief in the future. I will strive to make this relationship bloom until destiny herself tells me otherwise if that is in fact her intention
I do that well already Mono-but Maca doesn't and my thought is-if "what if" is already efffecting the NOW, lay off. Then if she/he/they can put it back in keeping it in it's proper place, all the better!