Originally Posted by marksbabygirl
Just over a month ago my father died.
20 months ago my husband's heart stopped.
Today, I can't reach him because he's on a fishing trip....
I hadn't read that before responding to the more recent post. I'm very sorry to hear about these serious troubles! What I just said about primary/secondary is made trivial and insignificant in this light. It's not front burner. Sorry. What needs dealing with here is the above-quoted material. All I can say is that I wish you all the best.