Originally Posted by SNeacail
It must be my age, but I really don't understand the importance people place on fb shit.
This. My response to whining I hear about that sort of thing is simple: "Grow the fuck up."
I can see wondering what's going on if some partners are claimed as being involved and others aren't. That would lead to discussion. When all are included, however, bitching about placement is immature, at best.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.