So, with my discovery, it has given me a lot of perspective (if you want to know, look in my thread), and a view through Jens eyes. Denying what we are is a terrible thing, as is denying connections that may develop. I don't want to be an anchor for Jen anymore...
Things probably won't be as bad as I think they will. We had a rocky start, but maybe we can find something healthy to begin with this time?