I suggest they do some reading here under "cheating"... it takes years to get over cheating... I dare say that one never gets over it entirely. It is so damaging to the very core of our trust that one is never quite right again... stand up for that! It could never happen. You are being VERY generous even considering her being in his life. Most women would be taking him for everything he has got at this point... I think he needs to find a deeper level of generosity, consideration and compassion. They all do!
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