Geez, I would get out personally. Unless it works to make one last ditch effort to say to her, "look, this is what I need to have... I love you, but I am not owned by you. Please look more deeply at your issues with this, because it is a concern of mine that this is going to consume your life as I break free and regain my freedom." I am skeptical it will work out after that, but it would be a last ditch effort.
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