Thread: poly imposter?
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Old 05-30-2011, 07:07 PM
AutumnalTone AutumnalTone is offline
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Originally Posted by jenniferjuniper View Post
... he seemed to shy away from frank discussion.
Red flag--aversion to communication.

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He told me he wanted to break up.
I hesitate to say this is a red flag because, well, he dumped you. That sort of ends things.

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Then he told me he still loves me, is attracted to me, etc. etc.
Red flag--wildly manipulative behavior.

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Since that night he's emailed me just about everyday but won't discuss the other relationship with me.
Red flag--do you really need somebody else to point out how dysfunctional this is?

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Am I overreacting?
I'd say you're grossly underreacting. Why haven't you washed your hands of his bullshit and walked on?
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While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.
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