Thread: poly imposter?
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Old 05-30-2011, 07:07 PM
AutumnalTone AutumnalTone is offline
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Originally Posted by jenniferjuniper View Post
... he seemed to shy away from frank discussion.
Red flag--aversion to communication.

He told me he wanted to break up.
I hesitate to say this is a red flag because, well, he dumped you. That sort of ends things.

Then he told me he still loves me, is attracted to me, etc. etc.
Red flag--wildly manipulative behavior.

Since that night he's emailed me just about everyday but won't discuss the other relationship with me.
Red flag--do you really need somebody else to point out how dysfunctional this is?

Am I overreacting?
I'd say you're grossly underreacting. Why haven't you washed your hands of his bullshit and walked on?
When speaking of various forms of ain't poly if you're just fucking around.

While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.
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