The whole concept of loving your mono partner more than anyone else bugs me. While I was married, I loved my sister just as much as my husband. Later, I also loved my kids as much, and also had a large circle of platonic women friends who were almost as important to me as my husband. In some ways, my sister and gfs were more important to me, as they were more objective, less jealous. I could share things with them that, if I shared them with my husband, he'd be less understanding, or try to "fix" the problem.
In some instances, my husband would be jealous of my love for, and time spent with, my kids and friends.
That was super annoying.
Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear. It is there most pure, perfect and unlimited when its votaries live in confidence, equality and unreserve. -- Shelley
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