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Old 10-05-2009, 08:03 PM
limbo limbo is offline
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Default Went on a limb, now in limbo (new poly/non poly)

I told my friend that I "like like" him (he is non poly). I'm married, the interest is a mutual friend. Of course, I discussed my feelings to my husband. My husband agreed I could go for it.

I whispered "I like like you" to my friend when our other friends weren't around to hear. It was the worst setting, and I was a bit buzzed, but that's why I said it because I felt brave enough, like it's now or never. We didn't discuss anything else that night pertaining to that matter.

The next day, I text him to explain. My friend seemed baffled, and he was saying all the "appropriate" things. He said he didn't want to hurt my husband, or me for that matter. He said he valued our friendship, the one the three of us share. We are all really close friends, best friends even.

I apologized to the would-be secondary, and I'm thinking well I've been rejected,but at least I still have a friend. I don't know if he thought I was backing out, or exactly what did it, but then he says, "We shouldn't bury this, it should be discussed further." Do any of you know what or where he's coming from? I asked him to clarify, but he said he's choosing to repress. I don't want to be pushy, so I'll leave it to him to pick up on this "discussion." I'm confused about where I stand, where we stand, and what are the consequences of my actions.

What do you think? Do any of you have any perspective on what he may be going through?
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