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Old 05-29-2011, 06:27 AM
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Location: N. Little Rock, AR
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Default A few questions

While I'm not new to polyamory in and of itself (I've been poly for 7 years), this is something that I've never experienced before and has been troubling me all day.

A little backstory:

I am engaged to a man (who's not on the site) that I live with. We've been together for almost 3 1/2 years, and plan to be married in November. We have always been poly. When I met him, he was married to his ex-wife, and I lived with them as his girlfriend. As I stated, I've been poly for 7 years, and Shrink has been for, as far as I can tell, his whole life.

Now, my concern:

I recently met a man who lives about 300 miles away from me. We spent all week talking on instant messenger and via text messages, even talking on the phone last night. Today he informed me that he was going to have company over, and told me about a girl he had met a week prior (approximately when he and I met) that was local. To me this implied that she was the one coming over. He also mentioned that she was very jealous type of person, saying that him taking a friend to dinner set her off, that he was with another woman.

So far, I've not heard from him since early this morning (10:30-ish), even though I've TXTed him a couple times, and sent him an Instant Message. This bothers me because normally he was very prompt in responding (admittedly, even when he was supposed to be working).

I can't seem to quell this feeling inside of me that the person that I was really starting to get attached to (which happens quite quickly for me) is going to slip from my hands so shortly after I met him. Perhaps it is just jealousy, or the fact that she's there, and i'm not. But, I don't know what to do.

Obviously if he's not responding, i can't talk to him about it.

I know that there's a chance that his phone died (this happened last night while we were talking) or that his company was there late, but I would still love some advice, encouragement, words of wisdom, positive energy, or something.

More than anything, I needed to get it off of my chest.

Shrink and Rei
N. Little Rock M/F Couple
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