Originally Posted by nycindie
AT, you mean walk away from the relationship with the parents? Not the triad, correct? I know, in the past, there were times when I had to shut my mother out completely in order for her to learn she could not be disrespectful toward me, or lay her judgments on me. However, the OP has the added concern of their threats about child abuse, so it may need to be handled a bit more gingerly.
Walk away from the parents, yes. As for the threat of abuse allegations, I'd also let them know I'd be responding by filing suit for defamation should they make false allegations. The best response to bullies is to let them know that you'll beat them down if they try to keep bullying.
When speaking of various forms of non-monogamy...it ain't poly if you're just fucking around.
While polyamory, open relationships, and swinging are all distinctly different approaches to non-monogamy, they are not mutually exlusive. Folks can, and some do, engage in more than one of them at a time--and it's all good.